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Writer's pictureNikki Rae

How I got here.

Updated: Feb 19, 2022

How can I possibly explain the journey I’ve been on these past 4+ years? It’s difficult to describe as the complexity of everything is...astronomical.


In Oct. 2016, I asked for a divorce. After 23 years of marriage, I had spent nearly a year coming to the conclusion that the marriage was irrevocably broken. The untangling of 23 years of life can be excruciating for everyone involved.


Then, 7 months later there was a fire in which my former partner was badly burned. The days that followed were some of the most devastating of my entire life. I no longer wanted my life with him, but never did I want harm to come to him.


Suddenly, I was left to manage a million details while somehow, protecting the kids. I didn’t have a clue what I was going to do. I didn’t know how to move forward. The only thing that I did know was that Love is always the answer. It’s just that Love now had to look different than it did in the years before.


And so, each day I would get out of bed, despite wanting to disappear into the fabric of the mattress. Each day, I would hold on, reminding myself to focus on “Just this minute.” which would turn into an hour...and then into a day. Most days, it felt unbearable. It was the boys and the people who surrounded us that helped me to find the energy to continue on.


This began the journey of returning to the workforce after being a stay at home mom for 15 years. Which, as you may imagine, held numerous challenges. With the logistics of the boys’ busy schedules, managing the meals in the way that I had been doing for my oldest son's health issues and then trying to adapt to working, I felt completely overwhelmed. So, why would I begin a training program in the middle of all this chaos? Simply because it was something that I was always meant to do.


With Love as the beacon that helped pull me from the ashes, I now aspire to guide and support others going through Transitions and Transformations in their lives. The past 15 months I’ve been absorbing all the tools that I can in order to show up this way in the world. I’m proud to say that I am officially a Certified Professional Coach.


“What does that mean? What do Coaches do?” you ask.


Coaches are an amazing resource in being able to help you find your own answers to life’s challenges. As a Coach, I believe that you already have all the answers inside of you. It’s just a matter of exploration and navigation to find them.


“Isn’t that like counseling?” you might be wondering.


The biggest difference between Coaching and Counseling is that Coaching is more solution-focused while Counseling tends to address the wounds of the past.


To be completely transparent with you, I’ve gone through a lot of counseling to overcome the trauma(s) that happened these past few years. It has helped immensely and brought me sanity. I’ve also done extensive coaching, which is what helped me to start moving forward again….creating a vision and executing a plan.


It’s the “why” I am here now.


I wanted to share this with you because this healing and becoming has been a remarkable road. So many of you have been by my side in countless ways. I simply couldn’t be where I am without your love and support! I am immensely grateful for those who stayed by my side as well as the new souls who’ve come in and walked this path with me. I am who I am because of your love and support. Thank you.


This website is only the beginning, but an exciting beginning it is.

Now, I am able to support others in powerful ways in their own Transitions and Transformations.


* Below are 2 photos of a phoenix that I drew on the floorboards before the new flooring went into the old house.


** Also noteworthy, my professional name has changed.



I had no idea that I could draw.

Rising from the ashes...

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